Will you be willing to wait for years and years for your perfect wedding?

28/06/2010 16:32


Just came back from lunch with a good friend. After more than two decades, she has finally got 'the one'. I'm really happy for her. However, the big problem popped up- they haven't got enough money to pay for her perfect wedding. Well, i have to say that her dream wedding would be unique and probably cost much.... That reminded me of a programme that just caught in my eyes' Don't tell the bride'. The glooms would be given amount of money, well, cash, approximately £12,000. They will be seperated with their partners for a few weeks before the wedding. During the preparation for the wedding, the couple will not be able to see each other. All the brides worried about their partners as men normally are thought to be simple minded.... Well, crying, fighting... etc. finally, all the brides are very happy to see everything their partners did. They all surprised how brilliantly they did for all the planning....


Well, those couples are those couldn't afford for a proper wedding. life is really wired and driving you crazy sometimes. Love is difficult to be found at the first place, and then you two need to consider and test each other until the marriage; even though you passed all tests, that doesn't mean you finally get there; all the wedding thing can results in breaking up, though. Life isn't long, but people are always forced to be busy in everything they want. Fair enough, though. No pay, no gains....


Love can be strong enough to fight against everything; however, love seems weak in front of the reality. Life is like a gamble, a negociation.... Please cherish what you have got till now in your life, and appreciate everything you have. :-)

Eco wedding books list

08/06/2010 16:10


You may wish to have your own dream green wedding, but haven't got a clue.

You may stuck in one green wedding, but time is limited

You may just would like to know a trend on wedding industry.


Here is a list of Eco wedding books for you.

1. Eco-Chic Weddings: Simple Tips to Plan an Earth-Friendly, Socially Responsible, Affordable Green Wedding - Emily Elizabeth Anderson


2. Organic Weddings: Balancing Ecology, Style and Tradition - Michelle Kozin

3. Green Weddings that Don't Cost the Earch - carol Reed-Jones

4. The Evening Green Wedding Book: Plan an elegant, affordable, earth-friendly wedding - Wenona napolitano


Hope that it will help you a bit on your green wedding planning, and there are more books coming soon....


Why and how to have a eco-friendly wedding

08/06/2010 16:02

Just found out this interesting writing on "how to have a green wedding". It gave a general idea about how much have been wasted on your happiest big day and how to do it in green way. Make a difference on your life, and also on our planet:-)




Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life, but scratch beneath the glossy surface and it's immediately apparent that it also causes substantial environmental damage.

According to Climate Care, an organisation that offsets harmful carbon dioxide emissions, the average wedding emits around 14.5 tons of CO2, markedly more than the 12 tons emitted by the average person during a whole year.

"An important part of a green wedding is your attitude," says Penney Poyzer, author and presenter of BBC2's No Waste Like Home. "The wedding industry is hugely commercial, and the more you get caught up in it the more your wedding will harm the environment."


Although we all crave the £10,000 designer dress that will draw gasps of admiration from our friends, it won't be doing much good for the planet. "Most wedding dresses are made in factories in the Far East, where there are huge problems with labour exploitation and poor working conditions," says designer Joanne Mackin, 39, who specialises in made-to-measure environmentally friendly wedding dresses. "Then add in the air miles and CO2 emissions resulting from transporting the dresses back to the UK and you can begin to see the problem."

Polyester, the basis of most wedding dresses, is made from petrochemicals, is non-biodegradable and involves the intensive use of energy and water in its production. Silk dresses fare no better, thanks to the fact that the silk worm is often boiled alive or electrocuted in order to extract silk from its cocoon.

In her dresses, Mackin uses natural organic and fair trade fabrics as well as "Peace Silk" to make dresses from her front room. "Traditionally, people turn their noses up at Peace Silk (which is made from the damaged cocoon that remains after the silk worm has hatched) as it's thought to be inferior in quality," says Mackin, whose dresses can be ordered from and are priced from £450. "But most people would be hard-pressed to tell the difference."

Other options for green gowns include buying second-hand or vintage dresses. Try eBay, or go to for a list of Oxfam shops that have their own bridal departments.


Mining for gold and gems is unsustainable, destructive and releases poisonous chemicals that leach out into groundwater. Conditions for workers are often bad, the industry is used to finance civil war and it also appeals to money launderers.

To take a stand, visit for rings made from synthetic diamonds and recycled gold.


Say goodbye to bed linen and toasters and hello to goats, trees and lavatories. There are now plenty of companies such as Good Gifts ( and Oxfam Unwrapped ( offering wedding lists in the form of gifts for developing countries.

Special needs teacher Diane Ford, 32, from Ringwood, Dorset, had her whole wedding list with Oxfam Unwrapped when she married landscape gardener Jonathan Makariou, 34, last year (above).

"Jon and I were together for 12 years before we got married, and we already had our own home and everything we needed," she says. "I decided to ask people to donate money to charity, but then a friend told us about Oxfam Unwrapped."

The couple received almost £4,000 worth of gifts for people in Third World countries via Oxfam, including 12 goats, 15 cows, 50 saplings and dozens of books for schools. One guest even spent £700 on a water supply for 1,000 villagers in Africa.

"Oxfam sent us photos of everything that was bought for us, so instead of the traditional present table, we made a huge picture board for our guests to look at as they came into the reception," says Diane. "It went down a treat. I lost count of the number of people coming up to us and saying what a great idea it was, and many of my friends have since followed suit. It felt lovely to feel that our wedding gifts were helping so many other people."

Companies such as Natural Collection ( have huge ranges of green wedding gifts that can be enjoyed at home such as beauty products, clothes and household items, all of which are environmentally friendly and fair trade, and organisations such as the Carbon Neutral Company and Climate Care provide gifts that offset CO2 emissions.


While the obvious green option is to use recycled paper and to make your own invitations on your computer at home, in today's world there's no need to send paper invites at all. "E-mail your invites or get people to download them from the internet," says Poyzer. "Your guests can e-mail or phone you with their replies."


"The biggest consideration for your reception is travel," says Penney Poyzer. "Make sure your wedding and reception are as close as possible, and lay on transport so they don't all drive separately."

Other things to consider at the reception are your choice of tableware. "Use china plates and glasses that can be used again," says Julie Brown from Recycle Now.

The simplest solution is to hold your wedding reception at Penrhos Court Country Hotel in Herefordshire. It is the only wedding venue dedicated to organic and environmentally friendly weddings in the UK, and will do all the planning for you. For details, see


Britain doesn't boast great wine, but if you can't find a decent local producer, look to France. Also, choose wine with real corks. The increasing use of screw-top bottles is causing Spanish and Portuguese farmers to destroy the cork forests that are home to the endangered Iberian lynx. With demand for cork falling, it is often more profitable for farmers to replace them with other less environmentally friendly forms of forestry.


Again, it's about thinking local. Reduce your wedding footprint by using caterers that source organic local products.

"At this time of the year, we serve dishes including fish caught off the coast in Cornwall and wild garlic and nettle soup for wedding breakfasts," says Daphne Lambert, founder of Penrhos Court Country Hotel. "We grow a lot of soft fruit which we use in our desserts, and bake organic wedding cakes, which we decorate with flowers rather than plastic cake-toppers."

If you have food left over, try to donate it to your local homeless shelter.


"The greenest thing you could do would be to forget about favours altogether as they are more commercial than traditional," says Poyzer. "But if you feel that's inappropriate, give guests something like a potted plant or flower that they can take away and plant. Or if you've got the time, make your own organic cookies and place them in recycled paper boxes or bags."


A single long-haul flight could undo all your good work. But if you do want to go further afield, meaningful trips, such as panda conservation in China and orphanage projects in Sri Lanka are becoming more popular with newlyweds, according to the travel company


While foil won't biodegrade and can choke birds, paper confetti contains bleach and artificial colours that leach into the ground. Ten years ago, Charles Hudson set up The Real Flower Petal Confetti Company in response to the problem. He now grows 16 acres of flowers, at his farm in Worcestershire. His petals have been thrown at the weddings of Madonna and Catherine Zeta-Jones. "All our flowers are hand-picked and organic, and our drying process is done on racks without using any artificial heat," he says. For natural confetti go to


If you insist on tropical blooms or out-of-season flowers, you'll rack up thousands of air miles. Plus, most flowers come from countries where pesticide usage isn't as regulated as it is here. In Latin America and Africa, the labourers on flower farms are mostly women of reproductive age, and exposure to pesticides can be very harmful.

Instead, source seasonal flowers from a local organic grower, who can probably even grow you flowers to order for your big day. Winter brides can opt for the Isles of Scilly scented narcissi, grown organically by family farmers. They can be ordered from and are transported to the mainland by ferry.

"Forget about cut flowers for your centrepiece as that is wasteful," says Poyzer. "Instead, use potted plants or flowers such as locally grown orchids that your guests can take away afterwards and put into their gardens or homes."

'We left the church in a rickshaw'

Antonia Frezza, 31, who works in human resources, and her husband Rob Greenland, 33, a management consultant, had a green wedding in August 2002. Antonia says: "I wasn't prepared to spend thousands on items that would be used and thrown away.

"We contacted a local farm and arranged for them to grow organic flowers and vegetables for us. I got a friend to make my dress from a second-hand sari, and Rob's suit was made by a local tailor. Our guests donated money to charity instead of buying us wedding presents, and people to blew bubbles made from environmentally friendly detergent rather than throwing confetti.

"By far the best part of the day was arriving and leaving the church in a rickshaw, with one of our friends pedalling for us. It felt really nice to be doing something a bit unusual. In all, our wedding cost us under £5,000, including our honeymoon in the Scottish Highlands. People seemed to like the fact that thought, rather than money, had gone into our wedding."

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Page boys

28/04/2010 17:44

Just came back a friend's wedding reception. As it was held in China, the page boys were attending the wedding reception. My friend asked her nephews for a help and fortunatelly it was a wise action. When it comes to page boys, please bear in mind that be careful of your little nephews who are scared of what he is asked to do.


Here is a few tips from experts on how to pick up your page boys:

-It's your wedding, so you can have who ever you want.

-If you are going to have young children in the bridal party tell them and their parents as soon as possible, so they have time to plan and get used to the idea.

-Take the pageboys out to find an outfit.

-Allow the pageboys to voice an opinion on what they should wear. For example you can choose the pageboy outfit and they could choose from a range of shoes and accessories, which you have selected.

-Find outfits that the pageboys look angelic in and compliment your wedding dress as well as the grooms wedding outfit.

-If the groom is wearing a morning suit the pageboy will often wear the same outfit.


We can't guarantee or guess what the kids do, however, just be relaxed and smile to everything unexpected on your big day. The good and the bad both make your life perfect!  

You design your big day

25/04/2010 23:53

You wanna have a wedding that everybody will be jealous of, or a wedding that reflects your 'the one' relationship. You can pick up ideas, but turn them into your way of displaying memories. Just would like to give you some tips from experts.

1. 'You can't have it all in terms of bridal style. You can't be 100% classic and completely on-trend. Decide which is more 'you' and let it guide your venue search, as location will form the foundation of your plans.... Look at colour palettes and select one that fits well with your theme and venue.

-- wedding planner Zoe Lingard (

2. 'Make decisions based on what makes you happy, not on what others recommend or what's perceived to be sensible, suitable or the done thing.... Think about the things you really love'.

-- bridal blogger Charlotte O'Shea (

3. 'Looking wedding isn't essential for wonderful wedding style.... Style starts with your dress - for example, a vintage gown is better matched to pastels and peonies than hot colours and tropical flowers - and the location.'

-- Ibizan wedding designer Vickki Jay (

4. 'The IKEA catalogue is great for quicky decor ideas or eye-up what the fashion pack's wearing.... try non-floral centrepieces, such as books and birdcages, unusual bouquets....'

-- bridal blogger Kat Williams (

5.'Reflect on your relationship with your husband-to-be. Where you met, where you've travelled together, how he proposed, your fondest memories of dating - let all these intimate moments inspire your day. Serve your favourite cocktail or dish as canapes, midnight snacks or at a food station; write invitations so they sound like your voices (wording rules are out); or name tables after your favourite places, pets or musicals.... don't try to be anything other than yourselves.'

-- big-day party planner Mark Niemierko (


My golden rule for big day planning is ' Use your memories, work on details'.


Your engagement ring

20/04/2010 00:43

I heard from a friend, who has just got married, that diamond is really woman's best friend if you choose the right one. Well, you may partly agree with her or totally not at all. However, diamonds really do mean a lot in terms of everlasting wishes, sparkles.... and of course, wealth. Please do consider your budget before looking for your bubbles friend. Here is a few tips about diamond's cutting.

Round: Also known as 'brilliant' cut, this is the classic solitaire (single-stone) engagement ring.

Oval:    An adaptation of the classic round cut, its secret is that it looks bigger than a round diamond of the same carat weight.

Princess: Don't be misled by its name: this cut can be less expensive because it follows the diamond's natural shape. Ideally flanked by other stones.

Heart:  For all the romantics out there. Heart-cut diamonds are quite rare due to the complexity of the cut.

Marquise: Shaped like the mouth of Louis XV's famous mistress Marquise de Pompadour, this one makes a statement.

Pear:   A cross between an oval and marquise, this is a feminie hybrid of a cut. The point is worn towards the finger nail.

Emerald: A vintage look, but be warned, it shows up imperfections of colored stones.


P.S. Pls go for more details in Bride, May/June 2010.

Girls, diamonds look amazing, but only with the right person. Choose your ring like what you are doing for your wedding plan -- follow your heart and you'll always find a good way.

Know your budget

18/04/2010 19:04


Just got the link talking about the average budget on your big day. You could also add your suppliers details by clicking each item.


Don't get panic about all the items. Check a few items per week, and you'll get in there !